Most of us walk around with a clear sense of what we can't do. Somewhere along the way, those limits stopped feeling like opinions and started feeling like facts. But facts don't usually have an origin story. Beliefs do.

There's a particular kind of person who can finish hard things and immediately find what they could have done better. If that's you, the problem isn't lack of accomplishment. It's something more structural.

The phrase "self-love" has been used so many ways it's started to lose its meaning. If "just love yourself" hasn't worked, you're not failing at it. That version isn't really self-love. It's the aesthetic of it.