Grief and Loss

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Grief can feel like a wave that keeps crashing over you, leaving you struggling to breathe or find your footing.

Loss can change your sense of self, your routines, and your relationships, making the world feel unfamiliar and heavy. Therapy can help you process your grief and find a way to carry your loss while still living a meaningful life. We’re here to help address grief and loss in many forms, including:

✦ DEATH OF A LOVED ONE
✦ MISCARRIAGE OR INFERTILITY
✦ LOSS OF A PET

✦ DIVORCE OR RELATIONSHIP LOSS
✦ LOSS OF HEALTH OR ABILITY
✦ ANTICIPATORY GRIEF

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YOU'RE NOT ALONE

People will tell you things like "they're in a better place" or "it gets easier with time."

And maybe they mean well. But none of that helps when you're lying awake at 3am wondering how the world just kept going like nothing happened.

Grief doesn't follow a schedule and it doesn't move in stages the way the books say it does. Some days you're fine. Some days a song in the grocery store levels you. Some days you feel guilty for laughing. None of that is wrong. All of it is grief doing what grief does.

You don't need to "get over it." You need a place where you can be honest about how much it hurts without someone trying to rush you through it.

How We Help.

Grief therapy isn't about moving on. It's about finding a way to move forward without leaving behind what matters. That work tends to focus on three areas:

✦ HONOR WHAT YOU LOST ✦

Your grief is a reflection of how much your loved one mattered. We don't minimize your grief, rush you, or put a timeline on you. Therapy gives you space to say the things you haven't been able to say and feel the things you haven't let yourself feel.

✦ MAKE SENSE OF THE WAVES ✦

Grief brings everything: sadness, anger, guilt, relief, numbness, sometimes all in the same hour. We help you make sense of what's coming up without judging it, so the waves feel less like drowning and more like something you can move through.

✦ FIND YOUR FOOTING AGAIN ✦

Loss reshapes your life whether you're ready for it or not. We help you figure out what your "new normal" looks like, not by replacing what was lost, but by building something that can hold both the grief and the life you still want to live.

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Therapeutic Methods

Most of us spend enormous energy trying to push away thoughts and feelings we don’t want. ACT takes a different approach. Rather than fighting your inner experience, you learn to make room for it while still moving toward the life you actually want. The focus is on clarifying your values and building the psychological flexibility to act on them, even when things feel hard.
If the same patterns keep showing up in your relationships, they often trace back to how you learned to connect as a child. Attachment-based therapy looks at those early experiences and how they shape the way you relate now. With your therapist, you make sense of your patterns and build the kind of secure connection that lets relationships feel safer.
CBT is one of the most researched and widely used approaches in therapy for good reason. It works by helping you notice the connection between what you think, how you feel, and what you do. When you can identify the thoughts driving your distress, you gain the ability to challenge and change them. The result is practical, lasting shifts in how you experience and respond to everyday life.
EFT gets beneath the surface of conflict to the emotional needs driving it. Developed specifically for couples and families, it helps partners understand the cycles they get caught in and why. From there, the work focuses on reshaping those cycles into something more connected and secure. It is particularly effective when distance or repeated conflict has left one or both partners feeling unseen or alone.
Some memories don’t process the way they should. Instead of fading, they stay raw and intrusive, continuing to shape how you feel and function long after the event has passed. EMDR uses guided bilateral stimulation to help your brain reprocess those experiences so they lose their charge. Many clients notice significant relief in fewer sessions than traditional talk therapy, making it one of the most powerful tools available for trauma recovery.
If you and your partner have ever struggled to talk about the big stuff (money, family, expectations, intimacy) without it turning into a fight or going nowhere, Prepare/Enrich gives you a structured way in. A research-based assessment maps your strengths and growth areas, then guides tailored conversations with your therapist. Over time, you build a more connected partnership rooted in real understanding.
Mindfulness-based therapy teaches you to observe your inner experience without being consumed by it. Rather than reacting automatically to thoughts and emotions, you learn to pause, notice, and respond with intention. This builds emotional resilience over time and reduces the grip of stress and anxiety on your daily life. The result is a quieter, more grounded way of moving through the world.
Psychodynamic therapy is for people who want to understand themselves more deeply. It explores the unconscious patterns, early experiences, and relational dynamics that quietly shape how you think, feel, and behave today. Rather than focusing only on symptom relief, it aims for genuine insight into not just what is happening but why. That depth of understanding is what makes real and lasting change possible.
Not every client needs or wants to spend time excavating the past. Solution-focused therapy starts with where you want to go and works backward from there. It draws on your existing strengths and resources, helping you identify what is already working and build on it. It is a practical, goal-oriented approach that works especially well during periods of transition or when you have a clear outcome in mind.